Q&A with a 35 year old that got rejected because he doesn't drink.
I am a bashful guy so it takes a lot for me to build courage to ask a woman out. There was this beautiful woman at my job that just took my energy to new heights when she walked into the room. We exchanged small talk occasionally and I finally decided to ask her out for a drink. She accepted and we set a time to meet after work.
Here’s the thing; I do not drink. I didn’t want to try and figure out another thing to do so I just settled on ordering a drink that looked like I drink. Cranberry and Pineapple juice. We meet at the bar and she orders her drink and then I order mine.
The bartender asked which vodka I would like and I told him 'None would be fine'. My date then asks me, “What, you don’t drink?”
I tell her no and she gives me a perplexed look. She finishes her drink and then walks out of the bar!! I was shocked. Needless to say I did not speak to her again. Talk about gone in 60 seconds.
It must have been awkward at work after the date?
I received a shot glass set from my office Secret Santa that year. LOL! I wonder who?
Plot twist... She got crazy drunk at the company Christmas Party? She did! Everyone did actually. It was an entertainment company. They had gambling, video games and karaoke.
Any lessons from this? ie Don’t date a co-worker? Get to the bar earlier? Just kidding. Be upfront and meet at a neutral spot to get to know each other. Talk about likes, dislikes and preferences.
Nice! Neutral territory = coffee? Yes. You can get decaf or tea if you’re not a coffee drinker. In my dating experience, that’s more acceptable than not drinking alcohol. I used to give the excuse that not drinking was a medical reason and people wouldn’t have a follow up for that response.
If I said I just don’t drink I would be ridiculed.
There are people who may consider a partner that doesn't drink as a deal-breaker. This is not a terrible thing; this just means the person is not for me. It’s important to remember that you never have to compromise or change yourself to make other people comfortable—ever.
I am willing to wait to be in a serious relationship with someone special who doesn't think my sobriety is a big deal.
Guest Profile Deion is a Film Editor in Hollywood. He likes going to comedy shows and concerts with friends. He thinks a healthy relationship is about respecting each other and having trust. He hopes to meet a confident and positive thinking women with similar interests that knows how to have a good time being herself.
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